I think that interpretation is total bullshit tbh. I NEVER got an impression of “Ugh, look at these girls, they’re so stupid for having FEELINGS and HOPE!!!” Rather, we’re meant to emphasize with the girls. We’re supposed to feel for them, to understand their struggles and root for them against all odds. We’re supposed to see Kyubey as the enemy, or, at the very least, disagree with his means.
The narrative never demonizes the girls for their wishes, either. We’re not supposed to think Mami is foolish and selfish for wishing to save her own life after she was nearly killed in a horrific car accident. We’re not supposed to think Kyoko’s an idiot for wishing to save her family and have people listen to her father. And sure, maybe Sayaka didn’t wish for Kyousuke’s hand to be healed for all the right reasons (in fact, this point comes up quite a few times), but she definitely makes up for it by fighting selflessly as a magical girl. It’s not the girls’ faults that their wishes were shortsighted or didn’t actually fulfill their desires. Kyubey never told them that the universe wouldn’t allow things to be thrown off balance and, as a result, wishes that warped reality (like Sayaka’s wish, for example) would eventually backfire. Kyubey never told them to sit down and think out every possible aspect of their wish and how it could potentially backfire or how it might affect those around them (like Kyoko’s wish).
It baffles me that people actually think that PMMM is telling us that girls should be punished or that the characters “had it coming” when the narrative takes every opportunity to call Kyubey out and show the horrific effects that being a magical girl places on a girl if she’s not prepared. The entire finale is devoted to Madoka finally having enough of Kyubey’s bullshit and using the magical girl system to her advantage to make the world a little brighter, allowing magical girls to fight with hope and die without despair.
I dunno, I think people just look for things to get offended about.